Verbal or Physical Abuse

Helpful books for adults and children

Many of these books are available through the ACT Library  and some are in our Support Library.

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The Blue Day Book for KIDS: A lesson in cheering yourself up (Bradley Trevor Greive) – under 12 years

Grumpy Gracie (Sam Lloyd) 3-8 years

A Terrible Thing Happened (Margaret Holmes) 4-8 years

When I Feel Angry (Cornlia Maude Spelman) 3 – 8 years

I Saw it Happen (Wendy Deaton) 5-6 years

Tell Me a Story, Mummy (Carl Norac) 3-6 years

Is it Right to Fight? A First Look at Anger (Pat Thomas) 4-8 years

The Wrong Stone (Russell Deal) 4+ years

Ruby and the Rubbish Bin (Margot Sunderland) 4-12 years

The Magic Beads (Susin Nielsen-Fernlund) 5-9 years

The Huge Bag of Worries (Virginia Ironside) 4-8 years

The above books were kindly recommended by the Domestic Violence Crisis Service in Canberra.  Their excellent website is at

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Ein Tag in Pauls Familie by Daniel Seyfried

Teen Torment: Overcoming Verbal Abuse at Home and at School  by Patricia Evans

The Spielwelt library has recently acquired some of the best titles in the field, for adults dealing with abusive partners, by well-regarded authors on the topic:  Lundy Bancroft, Patricia Evans and Pamela Jayne.  All are available through Amazon, and many are at the ACT Library.

Ditch That Jerk : Dealing With Men Who Control and Hurt Women, Pamela Jayne

The Verbally Abusive Man – Can He Change?: A Woman’s Guide to Deciding Whether to Stay or Go , Patricia Evans

Should I Stay or Should I Go?: A Guide to Knowing if Your Relationship Can–and Should–be Saved , Lundy Bancroft

The Verbally Abusive Relationship: How to recognize it and how to respond , Patricia Evans

When Dad Hurts Mom: Helping Your Children Heal the Wounds of Witnessing Abuse , Lundy Bancroft

Helping Her Get Free: A Guide for Families and Friends of Abused Women , Susan Brewster, MSSW

Why Does He Do That?: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men , Lundy Bancroft

The High-Conflict Custody Battle:, by Baker, Bone and Ludmer. A practical guidebook for people who are dealing with an overtly hostile, inflammatory, deceitful, or manipulative ex-spouse, the reader will learn how to find and work with an attorney and prepare for a custody evaluation.


Support Groups, Organisations and Links

The Domestic Violence Crisis Service in Canberra is an excellent source of information for those experiencing yelling, put downs, swearing, pushing, hitting or other forms of abuse / control / anger.  They also have information for you if you are supporting friends through the experience.  They even have a kids page.   There is a red ‘quick escape’ button on their website too, which you can click on to take you quickly to Google’s homepage, if need be.The Domestic Violence Crisis Service is an excellent service – Canberra is one of the world leaders in helping families facing this issue, and I can not recommend their service highly enough.  You do not need to be in crisis to contact them.  They will talk to you on the phone or over the internet or meet you somewhere.  They will even come to pick you and your children up and take you to a shelter if you ask them.  They will help you through the courts, if need be.  They are an excellent resource on all levels.

If you aren’t sure if you are in an abusive relationship, you can call and talk to them to discuss it.

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